Getting engaged is something most people wait a long time for. So when you finally do, there is nothing wrong with taking time and just enjoying the engagement for a while. Since marriage is such a big commitment, a long engagement gives you plenty of time to prepare for the rest of your life. Yet there are other compelling reasons why a long engagement is often the best choice.
There is no doubt that weddings are expensive. One of the biggest reasons to have a long engagement is to save up enough money to make your wedding everything you want it to be, otherwise, you may find yourselves spending more on your wedding than you can comfortably afford to. A longer engagement increases your wedding budget, so you are not as restricted in your planning.
If you have your heart set on specific vendors for your wedding, you might not have a choice but to have a long engagement. Some of the most popular venues book up to two years in advance. This is especially true if you are getting married on or near a holiday or major event.
If you want to get married during the peak of wedding season, chances are your engagement would have to last at least one full year, if not more. Unless you are very flexible on the vendors you book, a longer engagement will help ensure you secure your dream vendors for the date that you want.
First comes love, then comes marriage. And the last thing you want is to go into it with your finances in a mess. If you have any kind of debt, paying it off before you get married is one of the best things you can do for your spouse-to-be. Starting out your marriage with a clean slate puts less pressure on both of you.
Being in a wedding party is a big commitment. Chances are that the people you choose to be in yours will appreciate a long engagement. Your friends may feel awkward or uncomfortable if they need time to afford the cost of being in your wedding. By giving them time to prepare for it in whatever way they need to, you will ensure that your wedding party is made up of the people in your life that you love the most.
Not everyone chooses to get married at home. If you want to have a destination wedding, the planning process will take a lot longer. When you need to get passports, you need to set aside more than enough time between applying for them and the date of your wedding.
There are also other concerns, such as making sure anyone you are taking with you has adequate time to prepare. Many destinations also require you and your future spouse to be in the area for a certain amount of time before your wedding can take place. For these reasons, destination weddings take extra planning.
No matter where you get married, the guest list is an important part of your big day. A long engagement helps you decide who in your life is invested enough in your upcoming marriage to attend the wedding. Otherwise, you may end up with a wedding full of guests that won’t stick around to see how successful the marriage is. Especially if money is a concern, a smaller guest list is always better in the long run.