You’ve finally found the courage to ask the woman you love to marry you. She said yes; now you might be wondering what to do next. There is a right way and a wrong way to handle the beginning of your engagement.
Before you share your good news with the world, take some time to bask in the glow in private first. Whether this means barricading yourselves at home for a weekend or taking a last-minute getaway, make sure you carve out time for just the two of you…before the whole world knows you’re engaged. Once you announce it, friends and even family often start bombarding you with questions and suggestions. Consider your private celebration the calm before the storm.
Engagement parties are generally held within the first few months after a proposal. This is done in order to make it an acceptable amount of time before parties, such as the bridal shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties. Your engagement party is the time for your family and friends to meet each other if they haven’t already. It is usually the best time for your parents/grandparents to meet her parents/grandparents.
One of the best ways to keep everyone informed about your wedding is to start a wedding blog or website. By including information such as time, date, and location, you can cut down on the number of questions people will inevitably ask you when they find out you are engaged. When you have one, you can also link to your gift registry so that your guests can make the purchase when they are able to do so.
Many services with wedding websites/blogs hosting give you a personalized link that you can send to friends and family. It is one of the best ways to ensure that only your loved ones are kept informed about your wedding.
Before you get too wrapped up in post proposal glow, it helps to set a date and devise a timeline. If you aren’t sure how long you will need, start mapping out your timeline before you even pick a date. This will give you a general idea of how long your engagement should last, so that you can get the most out of it. Using a timeline makes the planning process easier and less intimidating. It also helps you anticipate what is coming in the days ahead, so you are prepared for it on physical, mental, and emotional levels.
For many couples, one of the best parts of getting engaged is the photo shoot that comes with it. These are usually the last professional photos you will have taken before your wedding. An engagement photo shoot is your time to celebrate the love you two share and the joy that comes with anticipating your marriage.
It is also a great way to test out a potential photographer. If you are happy with their work, they will likely appreciate if you book them to take your wedding photos too. This means one important decision is already made before planning even fully begins.
Before you get too wrapped up in bliss, sit down and agree on a wedding budget. Otherwise, you run the risk of getting your heart set on venues, vendors, etc. that you can’t afford. No one wants their upcoming wedding to cause that much strain. By agreeing to a budget before the planning begins, you give yourself a place to start.
Going forward, when you are ready to start serious planning you will already have an idea of what you can and can’t afford. You may have to reassess your budget before you move forward with your plans. If both of you are on the same page, this shouldn’t be a problem for you.