What You Don’t Know About Getting Engaged (But Need To)

February 19, 2020

Getting engaged is something many of us have dreamed of from a young age. And even though so many people do it, most people don’t broadcast every detail about what they did or did not expect to happen. As a result, nobody really knows everything there is to know about it. Get ready to have your eyes opened.

You May Wish You Were Better Prepared


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Since we do dream of this moment, it can often be anti-climactic in a way. No matter how the proposal was presented it probably doesn’t line up with the way you always pictured it happening. The key is to not let this get you down.

While the details of the proposal make for a lifelong story you’ll tell, the most important part of it is that you are engaged to the person you love most in the world. So if it wasn’t in the time or the place that you wanted it to be, just know that most people’s engagements don’t match their fantasy version.

Everyone Will Ask About Your Story


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It is inevitable that the people you encounter after you get engaged will want to hear the story of the proposal. If you dread the thought of repeating the story over and over, no matter how great it is, arrange it so you don’t have to tell as many people.

One great way to do this is to start a wedding website or blog where you can share your story. Not only does a wedding website make the planning process more efficient for you, it’s something your friends and family will find extremely useful. They can read your engagement story any time they want and when people continue to ask for it, you can save your time and your breath and direct them to the website.

The Relationship Will Immediately Feel Different


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There is no doubt that once you have that engagement ring on your finger, the relationship will never be the same again. Even though this is a good thing, it can be intimidating or overwhelming at first. Just keep in mind that good things are ahead, and this person has shown you that they are committed to the relationship for life.

Once it does start to feel different, the time has come to make some decisions about your future together. If you haven’t already discussed it, come to an agreement about how and where you will spend important holidays. This is also the time to determine whether your future plans include children. The more decisions you make together during the engagement period, the easier the marriage should be, even if you have to make adjustments along the way.

Even Watching TV/Movies Will Feel Different 


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It isn’t just your relationship that will feel different. Even watching TV shows and movies will take on a whole new meaning. Suddenly you will be much more interested in shows like - Say Yes To The Dress, or movies like - Father of the Bride, even if it feels like a guilty pleasure, it is one that you might as well indulge in while you can justify it.

Your Married Friends Will Offer Advice


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If you are the last among your friends to get engaged, be prepared for a barrage of advice that you may or may not want. Some of your married friends will give you advice because they remember what it was like planning their own weddings. They most likely want to help you avoid the pitfalls they fell into. While others will want to relive the excitement of planning their weddings by offering you advice on how to plan yours. 

The good news is that you may find some of their advice helpful. But even if you don’t, you can still appreciate that they thought of you. By the time your wedding day takes place, your friends will likely no longer be focused on whether or not they took your advice. They will just be happy that you’re happy.

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